Friday, January 21, 2011

Hubby Speaks - The Significant Other Blogfest

I unfortunately did not give myself much time to put this together what with my busy life of supporting my writer of a wife and two young children but I'll try to do the best I can. Having a spouse as a writer has its good times and bad times. I'll start with the good. It is quite entertaining to see how passionate she gets about her story ideas. I can admit that I do not always do the best job of listening as I have so much on my mind as it is, but just seeing her enthusiasm and true unconditional love for story-writing lets me know that what she is doing is right and what she is meant to do. Her tireless efforts are admirable with the long hours she puts in as well as having to be a mother of two very young, energetic children. She will interrupt conversations having nothing to do with stories almost as if a light-bulb pops on in her head with a new idea which lets me know she is always working no matter what time of day or where she is. She will toil and lose sleep if she has to in order to meet deadlines and her perseverance is truly incredible.

But then comes the negative. I work a schedule on a five week rotation which could have me working days, middles, or a split shift and I sometimes spend up to 11-12 hours at the office and can't wait to get home to see her only to have to sit downstairs and take care of the kids while she spends an entire night locked in the bedroom trying to get her writing done. I can see the toll that the lack of sleep has taken on her and she needs the energy to be a mom as well as a writer. I have also been relegated to having my iPhone as my sole source of the Internet because our home PC has been commandeered. Even my sleep can be affected by it being that we have our computer in our bedroom and often times I have to go to sleep with a blaring bright monitor shining towards my face. But other than that I guess I have no more complants.

All in all, I think it is an honor having a spouse as a writer. It definitely has its pros and cons, but seeing her face when she gets a story accepted, a new contract, a royalty check is enough to make me forget about the negative. She is doing my name proud and hopefully I'll soon be able to go into a Barnes and Noble or Borders and take one of her books off of the front display shelf with all of the other New York Times bestsellers. Remember the name Nicole Zoltack, because soon she'll be making international news.

34 comments:

Lydia K said...

Thank you for posting and being so supportive! We all love Nicole and it's been great meeting you!

Stephanie said...

Awwwww! How sweet!!!!!!!!!!!!

Myne Whitman said...

Thanks for alerting me, this is not to be missed! Lovely post from your SO really.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

It's difficult to fit it all in, but I try to give my wife some attention every night.

Angela Felsted said...

It's wonderful that you have such faith in your wife.

Sangu said...

I think my fiance would definitely relate to these negatives here, and I love how open and honest you are about it, and how supportive in spite of the downsides! Writers are hard to live with sometimes, but I hope we make it up to you in our own ways!

Wendy Tyler Ryan said...

Sweet, sweet post. Thanks for participating.

Donea Lee said...

Love your hubby's dream for you! I hope he gets to pick up one of your books on the front line, too! :)

Elle Strauss said...

Thanks for being so honest- it's a challenge to be married to a writer--I know it is for my husband! All the best to both of you1

N. R. Williams said...

That is so sweet. He's a keeper.
Nancy
N. R. Williams, fantasy author

LTM said...

omgoodness! That is so so sweet--"doing my name proud." And I can just imagine Nicole getting all excited about her stuff. Great one~ :o) <3

Summer Ross said...

wow- he has so much faith in you- wonderful post!

Meredith said...

So sweet! Especially the last line :)

Lisa said...

Awww, how sweet!

My poor husband can only use the iPhone at night, too, because I'm always hogging the PC. Luckily, he doesn't mind... not too much at least!

Ellie said...

Hi Mr. Z! Such a sweet and loving post. Thank you for sharing.

My significant other

Carolina Valdez Miller said...

What a sweet husband! I say keep him!

Wait, we were voting right?

Hehe.

Happy weekend!

Clarissa Draper said...

My office is in our bedroom and my husband has the same complaint about the monitor. Great post.
CD

Vicki Rocho said...

What a good sport you are! You know with a laptop she could type in the living room while you're sleeping....just sayin'

DL Hammons said...

Lock that man away and never let him out of your sight...he's the real deal!! What an inspiring post. Thank you, to both of you, for taking part in the fun today and helping to make it really special. :)

Margo Kelly said...

Great post! I love this blogfest!

L.A. Colvin said...

Nice to meet you both. That is soooo sweet and supportive of your hubby. BTW I love you blog. Its fantastic.

alexia said...

Great post! My hubby mentioned a lot of the same pros and cons - the SOs can start a support group!

G.~ said...

Oh my gosh! That was wonderful.

Thank you for participating. It means a lot to all of us.

Talli Roland said...

AWWW! I shall remember the name - can't wait to see Nicole's books in shops on this side of the ocean.

What a wonderfully supportive post. Thanks for taking part!

Jessica Bell said...

"She's doing my name proud"! Oh, how sweet!

K.M. Weiland said...

I'm loving this blogfest. Great to hear from the "other side" and great to see that so many of us are able to count on encouragement and support from those closest to us.

Kari Marie said...

What a sweet and loving post. I'm so glad I've gotten a chance to participate in this blogfest and read all the entries!

I laughed about the iPhone bit. My husband complains about how much I use mine all the time.

Susan Fields said...

I sure hope you're a heavy sleeper with that computer monitor shining towards your face! You sound like a very supportive husband.:)

Janice said...

It good to see a spouse who is so proud of his writer wife.

The Good Wifehold said...

A very honest account of the other half of a writer. I'm glad you guys find a way to manage it all and who knows someday all the hard work might pay off. I hope it does! TGW

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Mr and Mrs NZ .. you certainly have a story to tell .. talking monitors, spreading light, locked doors .. it's so lovely to see you're supportive of where she's at and how she's doing .. good about those royalty checks too .. Hilary

Patricia A. Timms said...

I agree, the balance is tough. It's not like being single or having no kids. But with dreams and hobbies you must work at finding time and creating balance. I have 3 little ones and a hubby whose hobby is as a triathlete. He trains before we wake, I write after everyone sleeps. It works because hubby is asleep by 8 or 9pm. Make it work! You can do it! Great post!

Elena Solodow said...

I agree that you two are making it work, however you can. It's great that he's supportive!

Jolene Perry said...

Awww.
Awesome.